Saturday, July 10, 2010
Parenting – CREDO CXVI
I learned some interesting techniques that my mother taught me and even more from my own children as parents. I think they are worth sharing with others.
• When I had a two-year-old tantrum, my mother would simply drag me in front of a full-length mirror and hold me there. Eventually my fury would turn to giggles and the tantrum was over!
• When I dawdled about getting ready to leave, she would taunt me saying, “Of course, you can’t pack your own suitcase, etc.” I showed her!
• When she thought I would enjoy a book, I would usually demur, so she would hide it and let me discover it.
• When I was six in Paris, I was impossible. Mother would stop and ask, “Now, if you were the mother and had a child like yourself, how would you handle her?” Immediately, I would be intrigued and stop and give her an extremely sensible solution! (I found this account in a letter she wrote to my uncle!)
From my son and daughter, I learned how to take a lifetime of guilt complexes placed on so many children who are told how naughty or bad they are. Switching to a neutral position, one simply says:
• That’s a no! Or if they want to do something inappropriate,
• That’s not going to happen.
• Praise and recognition of achievement. For the very wee ones, just clap hands! They usually join in.
• Oops! is a very convenient expression . . .
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